Do you ever feel like no matter what you do, feeling inadequate in some way will always be holding you back from living your truth, following your heart and letting your light shine to your full capacity?
I feel this way too sometimes! Just last Tuesday I woke up feeling inadequate and I knew that I needed to dive into the cause of it before it stopped me in my tracks! I was also feeling frustrated about the fact that it was there! ARGGG!!
It seems like no matter how much work we do there is always another layer of the onion to peel away. (Didn’t I pick a pretty picture of an onion that shows the beauty that happens as we work through our layers?) Another layer of self worth issues, of inadequacy, of fear, of doubt, of judgment, etc.
First, I reminded myself that if there wasn’t always something to work at, something new to learn that we would cease to grow, which means progress would stop! I don’t know about you but I don’t want that! So instead of being frustrated about feeling inadequate I decided to choose excitement about what I was going to learn.
What did I learn?
I learned that I was allowing yet another layer of perfectionism into the drivers seat of my life. Now, I’m not one that has to have a perfect house, or that can’t leave the house without my hair or make up done.
However, when it comes to my baby, i.e. my coaching and energy work business, I can get a little OCD about ensuring that I am giving my clients the best possible service as well as the best tools and opportunities for transformation possible, so they will get the results that they desire.
Now, I realize that there is always room for improvement, but sometimes I can get so focused on becoming better and better that I forget to acknowledge how good I am really doing!
Can you relate?
Sometimes do you forget give yourself those daily “GO ME!” moments and instead get bogged down in all the ways you want to be better?
Whenever perfectionism is causing me stress it’s because I am in fear of judgement from others and what they might think of me. This means my NOT ENOUGH BUTTON has been pushed and I am focusing on my weaknesses instead of my strengths. Since ENERGY FLOWS WHERE ATTENTION GOES, when my attention is focused on being critical of myself rather then being loving and compassionate to myself, negative thoughts and emotions will ensue.
What’s the opposite of feeling inadequate? Confidence!
Pure confidence (not pride) comes from being connected to your Higher Power and the unconditional love that is there for you. When you are connected to this Power then it is easier to connect to the universal truth that you have infinite worth that never increases or decreases, it’s just an IS!
Once you are connected to the fact that you are loved, and that you have worth ,NO MATTER WHAT, then it becomes easier to separate the fact that you may not be as skilled as someone else in a particular field from your worth.
When someone is more skilled in an area than you are, it is usually one of two things. Either it’s because they have been doing it longer and have had more practice and experience or their personality just leads them towards being better at that particular thing.
For instance, my energy type as a Visionary is good at being creative and coming up with ideas. However, I have to work at being organized and remembering all the details. Comparing myself to an Oracle energy type that is just naturally organized and detail oriented is like a fish feeling less than because it can’t fly like a bird.
When your self-worth ISN’T tied to doing something PERFECTLY then you can step back and look at what you do well, where you need some work, and the steps you need to take to improve as well as what’s an unrealistic expectation of yourself. And you can do it WITHOUT FEELING INADEQUATE, because your worth isn’t tied to how well you can or can’t do something.
Then you can use the ENERGY FLOWS WHERE ATTENTION GOES truth to your favor and step back and look at the situation for what it is, and focus on finding a solution instead of wallowing in the problem.
Staying connected to the truth that you have infinite worth and that you are loved, no matter what, will also keep your heart and mind connected,and your body and spirit connected,which, connects to you to heaven to receive inspiration and grounded to the earth so you can move forward in a purposeful, inspired way.
So on Tuesday, as I connected to my Heavenly Father and his unconditional love for me, and my infinite worth and value, I was also able to step into my personal power and know that even though I am not perfect and my program is not perfect that it does provide solutions and tools for my clients that are priceless!
I was able to let go of the imperfections and focus on just being love to the clients that I had that day, and allowing Heavenly Fathers love to flow through me to them. That’s really the secret sauce that causes transformation anyway!
So GO ME!!!
I encourage you to look at all the amazing things that you do on a daily basis. Things that might come easy to you, but are difficult for others that don’t have your same talents and abilities. I encourage you to look at the lives you touch, I KNOW that you make more of a difference in your families and friends lives then you can comprehend! And say….